1 Cor 13:4 Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. 5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. 6 It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. 7 Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].
You have probably already heard these verses several times by now. Love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy.
Notice how love is not an emotion.
Being patient is not an emotion. Being kind to someone is not an emotion. Envy and jealousy are emotions, but love doesn’t display those characteristics.
Love is … a choice.
The Holy Spirit has been putting this on me for awhile now, partly due to different circumstances going on in my life. I see people struggling in their marriage because the love is gone, but I say to them. Not really me, since the Hold Spirit gives me the words. You chose to love, it isn’t a feeling. Marriage vows say for better and worse, not as long as you feel it. That is one of the problems with relationships today. We are so focused on being in love and feeling the love for one another that we miss the bigger picture.
The feeling or sensation, appeals to the flesh. We know the flesh is carnal and sin comes from the
carnal. So the carnal voice isn’t the best giver for advice in our life. If your flesh says “Ouch, I am on fire”, listen to it. If it say “I don’t feel it any more, lets move on” probably not the best counsel you should be keeping. We know the flesh talks out of it’s own selfish desires. It doesn’t do what is right, it does what it feels like doing.
That is why love is not an emotion.
Can you imagine if love was an emotion? What would happen to us if God just didn’t feel like loving us today? Or tomorrow? I would be dead. His grace gets me through the day, each and every day.
God is love. He makes that choice to love us and stick with us everyday. No matter how stupid we are, how arrogant we are, how many mistakes we make, how many times we sin against Him. He loves us no matter what. He might not like us and you know He will correct us, but He still loves us.
Marriages are hard at times. They are easy other times. Sometimes they are repetitive. Love sticks through them all no matter what. Marriage is supposed to represent the bond between a man and woman that exists between you and God. It is designed to be a unconditional love. That is hard to do, but that is why He is part of the marriage. He is there to see you through it when times are hard and you are not feeling it.
You choose to love your spouse no matter what. Even if your not feeling it.