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Born this Way or Choose this Way, but Should it Ever Matter

Lady gaga’s new song has been a big hit around the world and has been widely used by the GLBT community as a theme song as such to help spread the message that they are born the way they are so do not punish them for that.

I can see how it is a valid argument but is it really valid for everyone?

Scientists are mixed as to whether or not pedophiles are born with their sexual desires or if they are developed. Is it a valid argument for someone who has an sexual attraction towards people who are not yet of the legal age of consent to claim they are born that way so it is wrong to deny them of their rights to be happy? Now I am not trying to compare anyone who is homosexual to a pedophile as heterosexuals claim to be born they way they are as well. I just want to look at the argument itself.

When one persons interest is restricted by law, is there a right to challenge the law as it is restricting their civil liberties? What happens if they are not “born that way” but can not deny their feelings as being true? Is there a difference there?

When underage people choose to seek out older partners for romantic reasons, is this act wrong? Both partners are willing and no one is being harmed, so why should it be forbidden? What happens when the parents of the underage person is ok with the relationship? Should the law be waived or as society do we consider it wrong out of principal? Why not lower the age of consent so that no one has to be denied their right to be happy if they are willing and consent?

“Sister Wives” is putting a public face on polygamy in the world that does not involve a compound or under age girls being given in marriage to old men. This new loving and personable face is changing the view that many have on polygamy and what the great wrong is with it. So if the people are willing and legally able, why cant the law be modified to allow that sort of legal union?

What happens when family members discover they have romantic feelings for each other? Should the love between a father and daughter, mother and son, or brother and brother be denied just because it is frowned upon by society? Why should they not have the right to choose what is right for them if they are willing and consenting as well? Why does society have the right to dictate what types of love are acceptable and deny others their right to be happy?

These are arguments posed by Franklin Kameny over his many years as an activist. It is a logical to argue for these stances when you have to use the same argument to support your own stances. If you are going to claim that you have a right to be happy and society should not dictate what love is, then you have to figure out how to defend your position when you deny that same right to other people. Kameny is a noted gay activist and has praised by President Obama for his leadership as an activist. Now just because Kameny supports these positions does not mean all homosexuals do. None of my gay friends think any of these positions are acceptable, but they also can not give me a reason why their position is acceptable while the others aren’t.

So what is the valid argument? Does society need to step aside and allow every desire to be explored as long as no one gets hurt? Are there certain things that we must forbid and if so how do we determine what those are? Removing religion from the equation, is there not a reason to allow for all behavior?


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