Sex and Love Due to Past Hurts

I suppose valentine’s day is the best day to write this.

According to PETA’s new ad, If you stop eating meat you will become a better lover. I think that is a bit of an over exaggeration, but it is great sign of the times that sex can help sell a Vegan lifestyle. If sex can’t sell it, it doesn’t need to be sold. Sex is not the main focus of my post though. Well maybe it is.

I have written about a friend’s sinful relationship before here. Even though I am friends with both people, I still have issues with their relationship. To me and from my point of view, it is wrong for them to be together. Scripturally, he is committing adultery with this girl and they do not seem to care. That or they are good at repressing it.

The other day, she was posting about abortion on her Facebook page and stated it was murder. One of her friends took offense to that and sent her an email saying that she was a judgmental person and should be ashamed. Of course the girl was hurt and took offense to being called judgmental. When we talked about it, I was not completely on her side. I agree with her that abortion is wrong, but I do not think her approach in dealing with it is the most productive. Her stance is that it is murder and saying anything else is watering it down. My stance was that you need to be more merciful to people, especially those who have had abortions and need to deal with it. It isn’t about saying it isn’t a sin. It is about reaching out to them in love and then telling them about forgiveness. The approach of Jesus.

Well, to help her understand my point, I alluded to the point that if you want to take a harsh stance against sin like that, it really needed to occur for all sins. Like the sin of having sex before marriage. Well, this truly offended her and she could not believe that I, of all people, would say this harsh and mean thing to her. I apologized for hurting her feelings, but I made the point of showing the correlation. You can not expect people to get over you calling them a murder when you take offense for someone pointing out your own sin relationship. I didn’t even push the point that they were technically committing adultery because I thought that might be too harsh.

I have a knack for saying things that get to the heart of the sin and it brings conviction on them. My gift from God.

I honestly feel bad for her that she refuses to see what is wrong with her relationship, according to the Bible, and continues on despite what she believes in. She has been so lonely from her past failed marriage, that she is pursuing this because it makes her feel good. Her now ex-husband has cheated on her in the past and been emotionally abusive. She has been craving that loving feeling for a long time, but there are times in her that I see where the love of God doesn’t seem to be enough for her. Maybe it is fear. She should have known not to become involved with a married man. She should know that it is wrong to have sex with him. She should know, but she is focusing on the fact that she has felt so unloved by those close to her, that she is unwilling to let go of a cheap substitute for what she needs.

I worry about her ability for future service to God, as I honestly think this unrepented sin will cause future issues. I will keep reminding her though and try my best to love her through the process. In the end though, it is something for her and God to resolve.

The Sin of Capital Punishment

Roger Olson made a post on his blog talking about how capital punishment was a sin. Not all of it actually, but those cases when a person is prosecuted quickly in order to close the case and move on. Testimonies have been fabricated at times and evidence is sometimes lacking. Not all police work is done to the highest level so the defendant does not get the fairest case. This negligence is what I take as being sinful according to Olson. Added to this, the more conservative Christians in these states get worked up at the thought of doing away with it. It was ordained by God so capital punishment is not wrong is often the claim.

I am mixed on it.

I do not get a frothy mouth at the thought of some criminal being put to death. There is no excitement in it for me. This life is no more and all opportunities are gone. At the same time, the thought of paying for criminals to live out the rest of their life is not appealing either. Money that could be better used to educate children or providing health care and opportunities to improve the lives of those suffering in poverty seem better ways to drop the potential of crime rate for a state.

What if an innocent person dies though? It is a tragedy and a bright future might have been denied them, but the same is true if they would have died in a car wreck or an illness. We are responsible for what we do while we are alive and the life we led is what is measured, not lost opportunities. If the person is executed is guilty or innocent, it is the judgment from God that they face that they should fear, not what man has said about them.

For this reason, I think Christians should be more active in prison ministries. Giving hope in this life is good, but without hope in the next life, it is pointless. Where is the grace and mercy that Christians talk about if they are not showing it to those who are in need? Isn’t that what Jesus was offering to the sinners that he encountered? Aren’t there plenty of sinners inside of the prisons? Why is there not a bigger movement towards prison ministry? That is the sin. Not capital punishment but rather the apathy that Christians display towards prisoners.